Welcome Athletes and Coaches... Now STOP IT!!!
Stop thinking that performance issues start on the "mental" level... they don't.
If it were a matter of simply changing your "mental game", you'd change your thoughts and you'd easily change your game. But I know you've changed your thoughts and you've worked on your "mental game" and your performance challenges aren't changing, are they?
That's because the problems you're having start on the physiological or cellular level of your body, not in your mind.
Once you are freed up on the cellular level, your mind will be freed up as well, allowing you to easily implement your mental game strategies.
Exactly what does happen on the physiological/cellular level? Read about it here.
Wanting your child to play their sport your way instead of their way.
- Are you telling your child what to do and how to play?
- Are you playing coach in the car on the way home, critiquing their performance and telling them how they should have done something?
- Do you think you know how to coach better than their coach does?
- Are you interfering with their technique?
Imagine if I came to watch you work and then proceeded to tell you how I think you should be doing things differently than you are.
What if I wanted to rearrange your files because it made logical sense to me and I thought you could be more efficient at your job if you did it my way? How would you feel if you were learning a new task in your job and I interrupted your learning to tell you how to do it different or better? Would you feel frustrated, confused, irritated?
So does your child when you tell him/her how they should have hit that putt, hit the ball, run the bases, caught the ball, saved that goal, etc.
Thinking or feeling that your child’s performance reflects poorly on you.
Tell the truth, can you relate to any of these thoughts or feelings?
- I want to brag about my child’s performance
- I feel competitive with the other parents
- I’m getting my competitive needs met through my child’s performance
- I want to win and I project that onto my child
- I feel like it’s my accomplishment when my child plays well
- I live my life through my child’s performance
- When my child performs poorly that reflects on me
Your child’s performance says nothing about you as a parent or the job you’re doing as a parent.
Their performance has nothing to do with you.
Pointing out your child’s performance mistakes to them rather than focusing on what they did right and the progress they are making.
Let me paint a picture for you. You’re working really hard at your job and doing the very best you can. Of course you’re not perfect, but every day you make a dent in your work projects and you certainly have forward momentum in your work.
But guess what? Your boss doesn’t notice your hard work or the slow but sure progress you make every day. Instead he’s only focused on what didn’t get done or what’s not perfect with the work you did do.
How does that make you feel? Angry, under appreciated, judged unfairly, criticized, unmotivated to work harder?
Here’s another scenario. At home you have a number of chores you do; even a number of little things that the family doesn’t realize you do. It’s a lot of daily work and what you do is taken for granted…it’s just part of being a mom or a dad.
But what if your spouse focuses on what you haven’t done – all the projects just sitting there that you haven’t gotten to yet? Your spouse just nags and complains about what you haven’t done or the way in which you do something.
How does that make you feel? Angry, frustrated, under appreciated, criticized, passive aggressive, unmotivated to do your chores or projects?
Listen to this radio episode of Breakthrough Sports Performance and I’ll explain how you are being influenced negatively without knowing it and what you can do about it.
Learn the two simple things you can do to improve your round without picking up a club.
It’s something I’ve heard from my athletes over and over again in different sports: they think how they do in the practice right before they compete is an indication of how they’ll actually perform in the tournament, game, or competition.
Wrong! The practice is just a way to warm-up your body, get loose, move around, take some swings, hit some pucks or stop some shots, throw balls, run, jump, make some dives, etc. (fill in the blank with what you do as an athlete) to warm-up right before your performance.
How that warm-up goes is absolutely no indication of how you will do once you start the tournament, game or competition. You can have a terrible warm-up and perform beautifully. You can have a great warm-up and perform poorly. You can have a great warm-up and perform beautifully and you can have a terrible warm-up and perform poorly.
Anxiety is one of the primary issues that athletes want help with. A certain amount of adrenaline is necessary to play well. I refer to this as a state of “heightened awareness”. You need to be excited and pumped up to a certain extent to want to perform. But when you have too much adrenaline, it turns into anxiety and can negatively affect your performance as well as make you feel miserable.
Pre-performance anxiety is caused by negative thoughts you have about your upcoming performance. Most often those thoughts are about pushing to make something happen; that feeling of intense pressure to play perfectly.
That’s right…a few of our gold medal winning athletes at the 2012 London Olympics have used the “F” word on national television! They’re talking about how much FUN they’re having performing and how much they’re enjoying themselves.
On Aug. 4th, I heard an interview with Michael Phelps and he said, “when I first got here (in London), I was too intense. Then I just started smiling more…I started smiling and enjoying it.” And after that shift he won a gold medal and then he won a couple more.
Swimmer Missy Franklin talked about how she didn’t come into these games with any expectations about medaling. Her goal was to get closer to her teammates and enjoy her experience.
It’s no coincidence that an athlete talking about having fun is a gold medal winner. To understand what happens on a physiological level when you perform from a place of joy and having fun, please listen to my radio episode on this very topic:
I invite you to follow in the footsteps of some of our gold medal winners and start having fun again with your performance!
This is my Arizona license plate that I’ve had for years!
When my clients would tell me about something that happened to them in-between our sessions, my first question would be, “did you tap on it?”.
Whether you are new to running, considering training for a marathon for the first time, or you’re a seasoned runner but want to take your performance and results to the next level, this book is a “must have”.
I had the opportunity to interview Kirk on my radio show and we talked about how he discovered meridian tapping and how he’s incorporated tapping into his daily routine. He also offers us his key mental tricks for runners and walkers.
Here’s an easy way to calm your body and mind down before bed so you can relax and sleep well. Just watch the video and tap along with me: